Schuyler Bailar (he) presents an essential and powerful guide that redefines the conversation about gender identity.
In a context where trans people face systematic attacks in sports, healthcare, education, public spaces, and even in U.S. legislation, He/She/They offers urgent and necessary answers. From why being trans is not a choice to the importance of pronouns, including complex topics such as gender-affirming medical care or access to sports for trans youth, Bailar addresses each issue with clarity, compassion, and an approach based on facts, science, and history.
Through his personal experience and work as an educator, Schuyler restores humanity and common sense to a discussion often manipulated politically and polarized. Although he did not seek to be an activist, his public transition as the first trans man to compete on a men's NCAA swimming team at Harvard made him a visible and transformative figure.
This book is both a tool for those who wish to be allies and a message of support and affirmation for the trans community itself. With a close and instructive style, Schuyler offers the language and context needed to speak about gender with empathy and openness, promoting understanding, acceptance, and connection among people.
He/She/They not only debunks myths: it celebrates trans joy and answers firmly and hopefully the question “Does it get easier?” with a resounding yes. A crucial, brave, and radiant book.
