Schuyler Bailar (él) presents an essential and powerful guide that redefines the conversation about gender identity.

In a context where trans people face systematic attacks in sports, the healthcare system, education, public spaces, and even in US legislation, He/She/They It offers urgent and necessary answers. From why being trans is not a choice to the importance of pronouns, and including complex issues such as gender-affirming healthcare and access to sports for trans youth, Bailar addresses each question with clarity, compassion, and an approach based on facts, science, and history.

Through his personal experience and his work as an educator, Schuyler restores humanity and common sense to a discussion that is often politically manipulated and polarized. Although he didn't seek to be an activist, his public transition as the first trans man to compete on an NCAA men's swim team at Harvard made him a visible and transformative figure.

This book is both a tool for those who wish to be allies and a message of support and affirmation for the trans community itself. With an approachable and educational style, Schuyler provides the language and context necessary to discuss gender with empathy and openness, promoting understanding, acceptance, and connection between people.

He/She/They It not only debunks myths: it celebrates trans joy and answers the question “does it get easier?” with a resounding YeahA crucial, courageous, and luminous book.